“First comes love, then comes marriage….” We’ve all heard the nursery rhyme. While marriage is fun, rewarding and very desirable, it’s not always easy. That’s where marriage counseling comes in. It is the best kept tool in every successful marriage. A tool that is needed in every marriage at some point or other, and a tool that often needs sharpening with use.
Most of us spend a lot of time trying to find the “one”. We go on dates, we text, we try to show interest (aka Tinder), but no too much interest, we make lists of the qualities we want in a spouse, all while trying to play “the game” of dating. After all of that work we eventually find the “one” and we get married. This is such a great time because we are so in love we look past their imperfections and only look at the qualities we like. We have finally found our happiness.
After a few months, years or decades; depending on the situation, we tend to find ourselves disagreeing more, letting little things bother us or just not being on the same page about major life decisions. During this part of marriage couple have two choices; they can put up with the things they don’t like or they can get a divorce and try to find the next “one”. If you are reading this and thinking this might be you, there is another option.
Marriage counseling can increase awareness, love and acceptance in marriage.
Studies show marriage counseling can dramatically increase happiness in a marriage as it helps couples gain introspection. If you are having problems in your marriage don’t hesitate to call and make an appointment to see if we are a good fit 801-361-2237.
I for one (the therapist here at ABC Family Counseling) love being married, my wife and I have a fantastic relationship. However we would be the first to admit marriage, even good marriage, takes a lot of effort, self control and conscious decisions. Without my training in emotional regulation, empathy, and human behavior I honestly don’t think we’d have as good of a relationship. But with these few key skills, we are a strong couple, a fantastic business partnership (not just in my therapy practice but in the business of life) and collaborative parents.
These are the simple yet powerful skills I will teach you and your spouse.
My personal belief is that every couple needs therapy. The only thing you will gain is benefits, skills to increase love and compassion.
You’ve heard the saying, “Happy Wife, Happy Life”, but my wife has added the important “Happy Hubby, Lots of Lovey”. With that mindset, where each spouse is putting the other first, is where it all begins.